Pink or Blue – We Love You

The gender of your baby – huge topic – do you want to be surprised at birth? Find out and have a gender reveal? Find out and keep that secret for yourself? So many options for you to decide as a parent!

For A.J. and I we want to find out at our gender reveal with our parents, family and friends. Me personally, I want to know as soon as possible to start shopping! But, A.J. really wants us (as a couple) to find out with our parents by our sides, so that’s what we do. This is not going to be easy, as I am high risk, so that means at 11 weeks I have testing done to determine if our baby has any chromosome abnormalities, this test comes with gender testing, that is supposed to be 100% accurate – that means that at 12 weeks along we would have the results and he wants me to not “peek”. My besties Shawn and Aubrey take on the role of being the keeper of the gender, I know these two are very strong willed and would never break no matter how many times I asked, beg or plead. Our doctor does disclose the results of the chromosome testing and all come back as little to no risk. I give Aubrey the information to set up an online profile to pull the results of the gender, now to start planning the gender reveal party. A.J., his Mom (Vicki), Aubrey and myself pick the date, May 19th – that means I will have to wait almost 2 months to find out if we are team pink or team blue. That is a very long wait and knowing someone is keeping a secret from me for that long, no good.

I text Shawn and Aubrey on a regular basis, hoping for a slip up. I send them articles on how keeping secrets can affect your health and friendships, I beg and plead for the next 2 months and nothing. At least I know I have amazing friends that will keep my deepest and darkest secrets to themselves, and trust me – I’ve known these two for a hot minute and they have some dirt on me. Anyhow, I guess I will have to wait until we crack open that stork piñata.

May 19th finally arrives, decorations are up, food is being cooked – A.J. is BBQing, which is he very good at doing! People are arriving, excitement is in the air as we all wait for the time to grab that bat and put it to the stork. What will come out, pink candies or blue? I have on my pink and white dress, I am hoping for that sweet baby girl, but I have on blue sandals, because deep down I know this sweet child of mine will one day be a sweet, strong man. But we will have to wait until everyone eats and mingles to get that confirmation we all are waiting for.

To go back one day, we are getting things set up and ready and discuss the piñata. You see A.J. is a former professional baseball player and I want in on the action too, if he goes first that stork piñata will be done with one shot. Vicki and A.J. decide to work with me on my hitting abilities – of course I don’t want to break my back, accidentally throw the bat or heaven forbid miss the damn stork all together! I take a bat and start going to town on a bush for some much needed practice before the big day tomorrow.

Back to the gender reveal! It’s finally time, we all gather around the stork that’s been hung. I take that bat and try to remember the pointers A.J. and Vicki gave me the day before and holy smokes, I hit the piñata – first try, but it doesn’t open. I look at A.J. and he motions for me to swing again, contact – AGAIN! But, no candy to be seen anywhere – one more shot and it now slightly cracks open, I try to hand off the bat for A.J. to take his shot, he motions again for me to go on – I think deep down he wants to see the candy fly out before I do, hehe! Ok Lindsay, you’ve got this, I think to myself, I get this bat ready, I feel my palms start to sweat, all eyes are on me and this stork – I feel the contact one more time – and there comes flying out blue candy, Hersey Kisses wrapped in blue, sucker wrapped in blue, so much BLUE CANDY to be seen! We are having a baby BOY, both A.J. and I are super excited – A.J. more so, he let it be known from the very beginning that he wanted a boy. But seriously y’all, this excitement is abruptly changed to an uh oh moment – I am a true Southern Lady and can never tell a lie, I had to run as soon as I saw the candy to change my clothes, with all that swinging, excitement and jumping, I straight up pee’d myself, yes y’all – it is true, with pregnancy you may tinkle yourself from time to time! AND, I’ve heard it continues after pregnancy – time to try out the kegel exercises.

Well, now that we know the gender, you know what this means – SHOPPING! Please excuse me while I make a run to gather a few more items for my boy’s nursey…


And The Journey Begins

And The Journey Begins, Day 1 – Finding Out I Am Pregnant:

Who here has heard of all of the early pregnancy symptoms to look for: nausea, sore boobs, enlarged/darker nipples, frequent urination, back pains, this list really could go on?! I am here to tell you; those symptoms do not always happen. For me I was tired, oh so tired and really that was it. I work out three times a week with a personal trainer (remember the PCOS and struggles with weight). I took one week off and was ready to get back at it. As I am putting on my yoga pants, I realized they are a little snug – I may have stopped at Chick Fil A one too many times during that week off, sorry not sorry! I tell myself I am really going to have to have a no excuse, really push myself kind of workout week. I get myself mentally ready for this fabulous workout I am about to experience. I walk into the gym with a big ole smile on my face and my trainer gets me set up to do box jumps – this really is my favorite work out – I can now jump 24” from a squatting position. Here we go, I take the jump and OH MY GOD, what the hell just happened to my boobs, who pissed them off? I do a quick push check and everything is great with the girls – ok one more jump, OH MY GOD, please for the love of all things good, no more jumps! Another quick push test on the girls, both are perfect. I get through this “no excuse” workout, I believe with only one or two secret tears that I quickly wiped away, went home and thought to myself what in the world is going on with me. My day goes on and I don’t think too much of the workout until later that afternoon when I am trying to keep one eye open and focus on getting the house cleaned. oh did I mention I have my house on the market to make a BIG TIME move back to Charleston, SC where I am from and I am trying to get things ready for showings this weekend. Yeah there’s that going on! Anyhow, I’m now sitting there, like I said, one eye open trying to stay awake and I pull up my trusty period tracker app – 5 days late, no biggie, I have been later than this before. In my foggy tiredness I think to myself I am supposed to go out for yummy cocktails with my gym (we are celebrating the gym’s 4thbirthday, and honestly my gym is cooler than yours…wink wink). So I call A.J. and ask if he would pick me up a test, just to have some peace of mind, but I am sure I have him freaking out because I am not supposed to be able to get pregnant. A.J. being himself, super sweet, says of course in his very laid-back voice. He walks through the door and I jump up, both eyes now open and run to my bathroom (locking him, the dogs and cats out – I need to have no interruptions for this test). First test, the First Response digital that will show me a yes+ or no-, here we go…Holy cow I feel like I have been waiting for 53 hours, that’s ok though, I have the 3-pack test box and there is a traditional 1 or 2 pink lines. I know these are very quick and onto the second test and within seconds there are TWO PINK LINES!! I look at the digital and that bad boy is showing a yes+. Say WHAT! I AM PREGNANT! I go rushing out of the room, like a bat out of hell, and there sits Mr. Cool, Calm and Collected. Honey can you please get on my level of freak out mode! Don’t get me wrong, he is super excited, but he is super laid-back. I call my Mom in pure excitement and disbelief that this may actually be happening for me. Next my sister, oh wait, I need to stop telling people, you know etiquette says to wait until after the first trimester.  Who am I kidding – a call to my 2 besties – now I’m done (for today anyways). A few minutes later I get a call from my realtor, someone wants to swing by in 30 minutes to view my home. In my excitement I explain to her right now is not a good time and spill the beans of what just happened. Oops! Now to get myself in check and get ready to head out and celebrate with my gym. So what do I do about drinking? Should I get a mocktail, do I just drink water and hope no one notices and ask questions (I’ve had drinks with my gym friends and they would likely ask questions) I like my occasional cocktail/sipping on wine, you know how that is! I decide on a good old fashion Coke a Cola Classic.  A.J. and I get there a bit early to grab a bite to eat before people show up. As people are arriving, my body tells me, homegirl you ain’t staying out long, it is time for you to go to sleep! I get through hanging out for a bit then head home to get some much-needed sleep. The next morning, I go ahead and test one more time to see if something changed overnight, still preggers! Now to wait for Monday to call my Doctor’s office and get in to confirm through a blood test. How many tests did you take before you actually believed you are in fact pregnant? I think I took a total of 23 – that may total one an hour – was that too many? What have your early pregnancy symptoms been?